上個星期，“姐弟戀”這個課題隨著一對政壇男女的戀情疑雲登上報章頭條。女主角貴為政務次長，又是單身的國會議員；男的則曾擔任新聞主播和電視節目主持人，離開熒光幕一段時間後加入馬華，並可能會成為來屆大選候選人，“戀情”自然引人注目。
這單戀情疑雲最終在當事人的否認、澄清下，並指只是報章在抄新聞，致力消毒後，證實是一場美麗的誤會，一點懸疑的成分都沒有。
無論如何，在大選硝煙瀰漫下，會出現這一條八卦，為大選專版增添了一些趣味，讓大伙在讀膩了朝野雙方對罵的口水新聞，帶來一道清涼的甜品。
不過，這道甜品能上桌，證明社會在發展，人們的觀念在變化，姐弟戀已經能夠被東方社會所接受。姐弟戀並沒有甚麼大不了，還被冠上了時尚的標簽，只要兩情相悅，年齡並不是問題。
不正式的數據顯示，在亞洲國家中，日本過半青年男性喜歡姐姐；韓國則有一半女性嚮往姐弟戀；而中國，老妻少夫的比例也呈增長趨勢。
我向身邊的男女友人進行隨興的抽樣調查，也發現大家都能接受姐弟戀，反正若男女各有經濟基礎，性格、興趣又合得來，沒有所謂男大女小還是女大男小。 不過，也有人認為，如果男方是刻意找一個年紀比自己大、經濟基礎也比他穩固的女性來依附，這種姐弟戀是不健康的。看來，人們是否能夠接受姐弟戀，其中一個 條件是雙方必須是站在平等線上，除了年齡。
姐弟戀其實是帶有顛覆的味道。在父系社會中，男性的地位凸顯，女性成為被保護的對象，如此一來，成熟男性與嬌小女性的組合自然顯得自然不過了。而在優生的原則下，女性一般較早熟，歲數大的男性與年紀小的女性結合生育更合理。
但是，這種觀念在現代社會是站不住腳了。首先，女性家庭、社會及經濟地位提高，女性不必再扮演小鳥依人的角色。其二，所謂優生原則已經隨著人們改變觀念，婚後不一定就得生小孩而變得不再重要。
此外，現代愛情觀是以感情為主軸，雙方一旦互生情愫，在情感面前並不需要任何理由，只要志趣相投，其他的因素並不重要。而且對於那些頂住傳統與習俗壓力始能換來幸福的人，哪種幸福是最難得且值得倍加珍惜的。
對於男性而言，以前擇偶時選擇年紀比自己大的女性，會介意別人說自己有戀母情結，所以都會傾向選擇年紀與自己相仿或相對小的小妹妹，好顯示自己有能力照顧對方。現在男性則會更重視女方的精神年齡和價值觀，女大男小的組合有時候更能產生化學效用，對感情和婚姻的穩定，甚至是事業發展和家庭美滿更加有幫助。一些男性會認為，已經具備一定生活閱歷的女人往往更能與自己共同進退。
不過，“芬彪戀”之所以被炒得熾熱，其中很大因素是“芬”一直為家庭和國家付出，卻誤了自己的終身大事和幸福，旁人難免著急；“彪”的出現猶如讓大 家看到桃花開，自感到欣喜。但是婚姻大事得由“芬”本身來決定，旁人急也無用。其實不管是姐弟戀還是兄妹戀，開花結果與否最終還看姻緣。
星洲日報／情在人間‧作者：張立德‧言論不代表本站立場‧2008.01.28
Google translated:
For years, not surprising
Last week, "for years" this issue with a political affair Puzzle … men and women boarded the newspaper headlines. Actress your long time for the Chief, is a single Member of Parliament; while men served as news anchor and television presenter, left the screen after a period of time to join MCA, and is likely to become candidates for the coming general election, " romance "naturally attracted attention.
This single-party affair in the final of the Puzzle … that clarified, and pointed out that the only newspaper in the news copy to disinfection, proved to be a beautiful misunderstanding, and that the ingredients are not suspense.
In any case, the election gun smoke, is there such a nosy, for the feature pages of the election add some interesting reading for everyone in the government and the opposition have tired of the war of words Duima news brought a cool dessert.
However, this can serve dessert, that the community in the development, change in the mindset of the people, for years has been able to be accepted by the East. For years and is no big deal, but also a nice fashion label, as long as the Mutual, age is not a problem.
Formal data shows that in the Asian countries, Japan has more than half of young men like sister; South Korea for half of women yearning for for years, while China, Lao Qi Shao-fu was the proportion of growth trends.
I would like to close with the men and women-friends for a sample survey also found that is acceptable to all for years anyway if men and women have their own economic base, personality, interests and combine, not the so-called big men and women on the male or female small. However, it was also suggested that if the man was deliberately older than their own to find a large, and the economic base than his strong attachment to women, which is unhealthy for years. It seems, whether people will accept for years and one of the conditions is that both sides must stand on equal online, in addition to age.
In fact, for years the flavor is reminiscent of subversion. In the patriarchal society, men highlighted the status of women as objects to be protected, so that mature men and petite women is a combination of natural a natural. In the principle of gifted students, women generally maturing earlier, the majority of men and younger women with fertility more reasonable.
However, this concept in modern society is untenable. First of all, female domestic, social and economic advancement of women小鸟依人no longer play the role. Second, the principle of so-called gifted students as people change their concepts, marriage does not necessarily have to become a baby no longer important.
In addition, the modern concept of love is the feelings as the spindle, the two sides once Husheng chorea, in the face of emotion does not need any reason, as long as like-minded, and other factors are not important. But for those who withstood the pressure traditions and customs before they can return happiness, what happiness is the most rare and cherish the merits.
For males, choose before the selection older than the women themselves, others said that they would mind a Oedipus complex, and therefore will prefer their own age with similar or relatively small girl, good show that they have the ability to take care of each other. Now men will pay more attention to the spirit of the woman’s age and values, the men and women on the combination of sometimes more chemical effects on the emotional and marital stability, the development of the cause and even more happy to help the family. Some men think that has a certain life experiences of women are often better with their advance and retreat together.
However, "Fen-Biao Passion" has generated a heated, much is the "fen" and the state has been paying for the family, but miss their married and happiness of others inevitably anxious "Biao" the emergence of like let everyone see peach blossoms open, since am delighted. But in the event of marriage from the "fen" itself to decide, it’s also urgent useless. In fact, whether or siblings for years and love, whether or not ultimately bear fruit also look at marriage.
Sin Chew Daily / intelligence in the world ‧ Author: Zhang Lide ‧ speech does not mean that this site stand ‧ 2008.01.28
